As we celebrate our 28th Anniversary today, I thought it fit to blog about Romance. Many think that romance is for the courtship stage or the newly married but I beg to differ. Now let me make an early disclaimer, I am not referring to sex in courtship. I am a firm believer in sex only after marriage why? Simply because the bible describes sex out of marriage as “fornication”. Simply put it is sin.
What I am highlighting is for those who have been married for a while. Unfortunately the romance wears off sometimes within a few months of marriage. Sometimes in less than a year boredom. steps in. Other times the cares of this life, children, job, bills become the forefront of attention thus causing the romantic flame to die.
My father made this very important quote. “Whatever you did to get your spouse do twice as much to keep her.”
In order for romance to be alive in a marriage, husbands and wives should take time to understand the needs of each other.
Men should be aware that women are motivated by kind words and gentle touch while men are motivated by what they see. So the wife should give her husband something appetising to look at.
If therefore you lack romance in your marriage on my anniversary day, I will tell you three basic things I do to keep the romantic fire burning.
- I remember when the fires of love and romance were first lit. I recall all the emotions and expression which caused me to desire my spouse.
- I Recall first date, first kiss, favourite events and dates, the wedding and the most hilarious or least romantic times.
- I celebrate the great moments by toasting to us for making it through.
I will say keeping the romance in marriage is not always easy. It will take work, time and strong commitment to each other.
Yes this blog is short because I am off to enjoy a romantic weekend with my dearly beloved beautiful darling wife.
