Happy New Year and God’s amazing blessings to you and yours.
2023, like many other changes of the year is now unchartered horizons. Resolutions on how we want to spend the future and utilize our energies for growth and improvements are made with a hope for real success.
In marriages there are lots of areas that we can become better thereby improving the whole shared experiences of those we love so dearly. I would like to offer a few pointers on how you may approach these changes that you would like to make.
Destroy the problem. Not your spouse.
1. Be motivated
Be motivated by the happiness of your spouse. I love to see Lorna happy. I have pledged to make her journey with me as joyful as possible, so I try my best to address her concerns and do things without her having to beg me to do so.
2. Minimize conflicts
Minimize conflicts and settle issues with the least amount of hurt. Conflicts are inevitable but do not need to be frequent. When they do arise be as amiable as possible in resolving them. Avoid hurting your spouse with what you say. Destroy the problem, not your spouse.
3. Listen
Listen to to the whole story. Some of us like to get to the end of the matter in a jiffy. This may cause us to miss important details and the emotions that are embroiled with the story. Love your spouse enough to hear what is said and see how they feel. In the movie Avatar the expression “I see you” resonates with me because it implies empathy, love and selflessness.
4. Pray
Pray to become the person you really want to be. Why do it alone when you have help from the Holy Spirit. We are limited in all our capacities; therefore, we can become frustrated and choose to give up in difficult times. However, the Holy Spirit is a reservoir of inexhaustible love, wisdom, patience, etc. Prayer releases these qualities, making us better spouses.
I do trust that this new year brings with it marital revival, renewal and refreshing. This can only be made manifest with God’s help and your intentional input.
Please share. Thank You.
